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Want to see Alexa speak in 2020? Check out where she’ll be so far this year! This list will continue to be updated. 

 

Alexa will be kicking off the day at the Young Women’s Leadership Summit on January 25, 2020 at Stanford University.

The Young Women’s Leadership Summit is an annual event that aims to introduce young women to a variety of business disciplines, and during the day-long conference, attendees will listen to and learn from accomplished women leaders, gain hands-on experience through workshops, and interact with industry professionals, Stanford students, and motivated peers.

Alexa will be kicking off the 2020 Be Fearless Summit at UC Berkeley! Join her from 9-10 AM at the university to kick off the day before hearing from tons of thought leaders on panels and breakout sessions. Stay tuned on Alexa’s Instagram for a giveaway closer to the summit where we will be flying one of you lucky fans out to the Be Fearless Summit!

Hofstra University in New York and Alexa are teaming up for a half-day summit on self-care with one of the professors who is at the university. Stay tuned for more information to follow!

This half-day summit will be following the Be Fearless Summit in April.

A new year can bring a mix of emotions. I always get anxious when I think about a new year because I never know what to expect. It’s totally normal to feel like you aren’t doing enough or like you could have accomplished more in this year. You might start comparing yourself to other people or wake up on January 1st in a rut: these are totally normal feelings! I’ve never been a fan of making resolutions for a new year because if I can’t achieve them I get frustrated. Why put yourself through that?

What I’d suggest you do to prepare yourself for a new year while being kind to yourself is sit down with a notebook today or tomorrow and brainstorm some ideas (feasible and some that are outside of the box) on a piece of paper. Rip out that piece of paper and put it in your notebook to carry around until January 1st. Wherever you decide to spend NYE, whether you’ll be home or out with people, this piece of paper will remind you that you’re going to do just fine. Maybe all you need to write is be happy.

If you’re someone who doesn’t have any goals or aspirations, it might be time to rethink that. What’s your purpose in the world? What are you here to accomplish? I’m a big fan of big picture goals: I don’t advice making your goal of 2020 to fit into your jeans from when you were 12 or watching less TV. Unless you genuinely want to fit into those jeans…how about some goals like volunteering once or twice a week? Evaluating your friend group or the relationship you’re currently in if you feel you could be happier? Everything you do today, tomorrow and next year impacts who you’ll be in ten years.

Break your BIG dreams into small steps. You’re not going to land your dream job before your dream interview. You’re not going to land a TV show before you start taking acting classes. What small steps can you make towards your bigger 2020 goal? Learn from the past: if you did something this year because you thought you should do it or because someone told you to, how did that make you feel? Focus less on what people want you to do and focus more on how what you do impacts you.

Xo,

Alexa

This is part of a partnership with Vera Bradley. 

It’s holiday gifting season, which means that you’re probably at the mall right now or actively thinking about what to get everyone in your life! I have a super small family and my sister lives abroad, so when I think about gifting I always go for more personal items, like flowers, a bag or a card. If you watched my Cheddar segment a few weeks ago, you might’ve seen me with this mini backpack on the table. It’s from Vera Bradley- an OG brand that’s only gotten cooler as I’ve gotten older. When I was in Fort Wayne I got to view the Vera Bradley offices and it felt so nostalgic since I grew up with this brand! They’ve expanded to more than just their classic print, with tons of new gear that has an extensive amount of prints for you to choose from. Their price points are also fabulous: like this duffel for $100 (it’s out of stock but will be back!), and this robe for $60. I asked for a new bathrobe for Christmas so mom, I hope you’re reading this! The red and black plaid above is something I’d buy a girlfriend or boyfriend. That color pattern never goes out of style!

For more holiday gifts I suggest buying, click here and here!

After a long day out or at work, it’s easy to fall into a habit of laziness and not doing anything. At some point, it may even become somewhat appealing and you might just forget that keeping fit can actually go a long way in making you feel good, not just about yourself but also with everything you do. Extended periods of inactivity will possibly run down your happiness and overall well-being. We found some easy ways for you to move around a bit and improve health!

Good workouts for your legs

Who wouldn’t want to improve their legs and have a nicer bum? Through convenient fitness apps, including 30dayfitness.app, you can discover the magic of 10-minute miracle bubble butt workouts. This is a routine that includes lunges, leg raises, glute bridges, toe taps and donkey kicks all critical in helping you perk up the butts. To see amazing results, just ensure that you watch your diet so that you don’t end up adding extra fat to your body.

Stand up for at least half an hour

However lazy you are, standing up for at least half an hour won’t really hurt, would it? You can do this by doing some cleaning, standing in the metro or making round of tea. Making a conscious effort to just stand up and be on your feet for an hour or so well go a long way in improving your overall well-being.

Take a walk for at least 20 minutes every day

Don’t just find any possible excuse to take a bus or drive everywhere you want to go. Put your legs to work and get moving for approximately 20 minutes every day and watch how your health will improve. Furthermore, you won’t have to worry about fitting time to exercise in your schedule because taking a walk is definitely an easy fit!

Consider Tabata workouts

This new kind of workout is something that really makes you sweat and is rather easy to keep track of! You work out for 10/20 timing, meaning you exercise for 20 seconds, rest for 10, then redo the entire process. This type of workout as a result is rather intense and has been proven to show results. Tabata’s are especially effective in raising your heart rate and metabolism.

Work out during advertisements

Your favorite TV show has just gone on a commercial break, why not use the time to do some squats, lunges, skipping or burpees? You may not see it but you are doing yourself a lot of good instead of just sitting there waiting for the advert to come to an end.

Practice the 10 rule

Every day, just make sure that you do 10 push-ups and 10 sit-ups. Something is better than nothing and it doesn’t really have to be consecutive. However, if you find them becoming too easy, it might just be the right time to switch up a little bit.

Practice positive self-talk

This is more of mental workout than physical. It ensures that your mind operates at the same level as your body, or even better. This will help you boost your productivity at work and increasing your level of concentration.

Now that you are fully aware of some of the pitfalls of laziness and the positive effects on your side with just embracing these fitness routines that might actually be the start of a whole new routine. More so, they could be just a way to help you unwind at the end of the day, whichever purpose it is, it’ll help your overall health and wellbeing.

DATING 101.

Times have changed since 10 years ago. With apps like Tinder, Grindr, and Bumble it’s like you never actually have to settle on one person. Don’t get confused: I didn’t say settle (you NEVER settle) but settling on one person… isn’t that what the goal of dating is unless you enjoy dating multiple people at once? Side note, I watched Polyamory: Married and Dating on Hulu because I was so bored and it was a great show. Not my style, but great show. 

Here’s the thing. 20 years ago, you had to pick up a phone or write a letter to ask someone out. From the beginning of time, way before #MeToo, men were expected to make the first move. I always thought that was weird. Like, if you’re hot and I think you’re hot, I want to get to know you. You might be hot and an asshole but until I ask you out I’m not going to know that, will I?

I dated someone for three years and guess how we started going out? I wrote down my name and number on my business card at a grocery store in Connecticut when I was living in Boston (home for the weekend) and I went up to him. It was scary and I was 18! But I don’t care about rejection and never did. So I asked him out and we dated for a long time. To this day he says he would’ve never asked me out because I looked “too intimidating”. I could’ve waited for him to ask me out that day but I knew he wasn’t going to because nowadays, men don’t do that as often. It’s easier to swipe right and left then it is to also go up to someone you think is attractive.

IF you fail to play the game, you’re going to lose. This year in particular I’ve been asked out a lot, which is different for me because I always seem to be the one asking out, and all three times I started seeing men (one I met at my WeWork office, one at a wedding, one at a restaurant in Connecticut, one through a friend)…

I got ghosted on the third date. Two/five I was asked to split on the 3rd date with older men- way older than me who asked me out. I live in LA, it’s not like these bills come out to $16 and some pennies.

The weird part: three of them were over 35, one was 26, and I got asked to split the bill on the third date by the oldest two men. I can pay my bill and yours plus 30 of our friends: this isn’t about the money. This is about your morals and mine.

Out of curiosity I asked every single one of my girlfriends this week (between 25- 40) and I called my mom…they all agreed that men over 35 shouldn’t ghost and that they should definitely pick up the tab post third date. I’m not disclosing whether or not I slept with someone/none of them/ any of them because I’m not letting that alter anyone’s opinion on this topic. BUT why aren’t the younger, less established ones asking to split the bill but the rest are? AND, why did so many vote on my Instagram poll saying they WISH the woman would offer? What if she paid for the Ubers or one round of drinks? Do you want us to stand on the bar and scream “HEY, MY TREAT!”

Dating for me is very difficult. I don’t usually disclose my age because it scares older men off until they Google me- I starting dating older guys more recently (I’m too busy and not interested in frat parties/ partying to care about your beer and boredom)  and I’m not on dating apps anymore (besides Raya) and that’s what spun me into wanting to have this conversation.

I get it, I’m successful, but so are you if you’re over 27. According to the messages I got on Instagram, you’re all offering to split the bill on the first date (girls and guys). In my opinion, if you’ve met on a dating app, I’d offer to split the bill. I would. Serial dating is a thing in 2020 and no dude is interested in paying $100 a night every night of the week if they’re going out every night. We’d like to think we’re that special fun diamond who will make a guy settle down just by looking at us but unfortunately unless you really get to know someone, they’re probably comparing you to the 20 other girls they’ve gone out with that week (or night)!

Only a few of many messages we got on this topic from you…

 

Here’s my opinion: I think the guy should pick up the tab from the 1-3 date. If he’s older and getting to hang out with you, then why not the 4th date? But, if I’m going out with someone in a random city and I downloaded Bumble just to have fun, I’m offering to split the bill. Most of my friends agree with this, but I think it also comes down to your personal morals. I got messages from people asking how to “bring down” their expectations so they’re not single- f*** that. Don’t bring down your expectations, let them meet you at yours. No more half put your hand in the bag: you either offer or you go into a date with the expectation it’s important to you that he/she pay. You can easily use this thing called communication and communicate at the beginning of the date with how it makes you feel when people ask you to split on the first date. Then it’s up to them to step up to the plate, or you split and leave! No guy or girl is worth sacrificing your expectations for.