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The full segment about me surprising Sammie Vance in Fort Wayne aired earlier this week and the clip is above. I had such a blast surprising her and learning about this incredible project. To learn more about Sammie, click here. Her benches are all made out of recycled bottle caps!

RedBook Magazine interviewed me for a great piece on dealing with anxiety and depression over the holidays. Read it here!

Statistics show that over 17 million adults experience depression, and more than 40 million battle anxiety disorder in the United States. For those dealing with either, or both—know that you are not alone. Many times, people suffering from anxiety or depression simply want to stay home and avoid social gatherings, but with the holidays just around the corner, there are tips and tools that can help you navigate and even enjoy the many events with family and friends that pop up on your calendar this time of year.

Make time to meditate.

Prepare your mind and body for the upcoming holiday stress ahead of time. One easy way to do this is to meditate daily, which studies have proven can help with anxiety and depression. With apps like Headspace and Calm, everyone now has access to top-notch meditation sessions in the palm of their hands. Alexa Curtis, CEO of Life Unfiltered with Alexa, shares tips with her audience about mental health, and insists that practicing mindfulness has made a huge difference in her life. “I’ve been using Headspace for close to 2 years now and it’s completely changed the game for me both as an entrepreneur and in my personal life.” She also explains that consistency is key with these things: “I like to stay consistent with my meditation schedule: it’s the first app I pull up on my phone in the morning before I reply to texts or check social media.”

This post is in partnership with BoriCap. I’ve been a fan of the brand and product for a very long time!

Over the years I’ve heard a constant complain from girl friends of mine. We’ve all been diagnosed with BV, which is just a (very common) situation down there that isn’t fun to deal with. It’s similar to a yeast infection. Actually, it’s the most common infection in women ages 15-44! Through my own personal search over the years, I’ve watched hundreds of videos and read one too many online threads to try and solve this common problem among my friends. It wasn’t until one doctor I saw in Connecticut (my old OBGYN) that I decided to try something new. He suggested I try boric acid. I’d never heard of it before 2 years ago but I was willing and ready to take anything! I came across BoriCap, which is the #1 rated brand and I decided to buy the product on Amazon to test it out myself.

No one is talking about BV, and the people who do online seem to be just as confused as the doctors. I’m not a fan of being on antibiotics for weeks which is all doctors care to prescribe, especially when it comes to BV or cysts. In my opinion, nothing ever works!

I’m not kidding when I say this product changed my life. It’s founded by two women who know way more about female anatomy than any of us and who aren’t just interested in a short-term resolution. When I purchased this product a few years ago I was using it daily because I was so scared BV would keep recurring but after over 1 year of using it I only use the pills sparingly now. Sometimes not even once a month (if that) and I feel completely cleared or if it recurs, I take one of the pills and it’s gone instantly.

I’ve heard that apple cider vinegar is another way to keep your pH in check which isn’t a remedy I’ve tried but keep meaning to. I happen to have a more acidic composition which is why my pH is always out of wack. Knowing where your body is pH wise is a great thing overall because it’ll help you in the future if you’re dealing with any female issues.

Never feel ashamed to talk about something you’re dealing with. Trust me, if you are, 1000s of people out there are too!

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To succeed in any industry, you have to get better at doing everything that everyone else is already doing. I’ve perfected that skill when it comes to emailing. You can get exactly what you want from an email, no networking events or even business cards required. I’ve spoken about this before on This is Life Unfiltered, and on the site. You can live your life afraid of what someone will say back or think about you, or you can live your life fearlessly and have no fear of rejection. Up to you. I’d choose the latter.

I have three secrets. There are two plugins and one website that has completely shaped how I find a producer or executive to pitch. I used to sit and try every single email variation of a name to see which email would bounce back to find the format. It’s kind of crazy when I think about what I used to do to find an email.

I have some other secrets too, but I won’t release them until I’m really successful.

The website below is primarily for entertainment purposes: if you want to work in entertainment, this is the website for you. I can’t remember how I found this website a few years ago (probably through some ridiculous Google search to find someone I wanted to email) but it’s the site that I found the emails of the 466 producers I pitched before landing Fearless Everyday. Mhm, this baby. Don’t tell anyone or tell everyone because it’s still my prized possession but I figured I’d share it since I tell everyone about these when I’m doing a talk. No one knows about the website or the plugin which is why I am calling it a secret until people start telling me I should download or check out that website!

Right here. 

You also need snov.io (it’s free, but I pay $30 because I want to find more emails) and LinkedIn Lead Leaper. Also free. To find out how I advise you pitching yourself via an email, click here. 

Have fun emailing!

When I was a little girl I always said to myself that if I found myself in an unhappy relationship including a friendship, I’d get out of it immediately. My best friend and I have this term that we coined called exilers. We’re the first person to give someone a second chance but there are many people not worth second chances, so we say that we’ll exile them. It’s an aggressive term but it makes sense. That’s what happened with a group of childhood friends I had in my hometown almost 1 year ago now. There are people that will come into your life worth fighting for and there are people worth letting go. That particular group of friends consumed my life for almost all of it, from childhood to my career growing to the highs and lows of being a young person. I’ve gone through deep sessions of therapy for most of this year to try and understand how I could be so close with people to have them disappear faster than air, but what I’ve come to realize is the people worth fighting for are the ones that will fight for you. Most people won’t fight for you. Let those ones fade. I’ll never have the answer on why that terribly traumatic experience happened over something so incredibly small. I no longer wanted to fight to keep people in my life not worth fighting for any longer.

For almost three years I was in a long distance relationship. My podcast producer kept telling me to post a video on my advice for being in a long distance relationship but by the time I felt comfortable about talking about the experience the relationship was over for good. I always feel more comfortable writing anyway.

I compare the relationship I was in to the friendship I was in with those high school friends. Both relationships became too much for me. It was a game of who can spend more time with Alexa when I’m in Connecticut for a day or two and on the other hand how will I as the friend/ girlfriend choose? In the back of my mind I was always thinking I’m too young to have to make this kind of decision especially because both sides didn’t like each other. There was no common ground. I became Hannah Montana. Returning home for both relationships, especially as the friendships ended and I stayed in the relationship, became both painful and slightly nauseating for me. I no longer had to choose who to spend my time with but I was in fear every time I went to dinner or Starbucks that I’d run into that group of people and either scream or freak the fuck out. My home town is so small and everyone knows everyone. I just wanted to be anonymous and he didn’t understand that. He fell in love with the 18-year-old me that was young and naive.

I never had an issue being in a long distance relationship. It was the contrary for me. I love being alone. I freakin’ LOVE my girl friends. I hate sleeping with anyone because I’m a really light sleeper and I’m slightly neurotic (I need to wake up at 6 AM on the weekdays, I need to be at the gym by 7, I need my coffee!) but I loved this person and I sacrificed parts of myself when I was with him because I knew that in 24 hours I’d be back in LA. I could go back to being the Alexa that I feel most confident being. Over the course of time I changed. I changed a lot when that group of friends left my life and he came back into my life after we had broken up for the first time. I eventually grew to feel like a different person, trying to keep someone happy who probably loved the old Alexa a little bit more than the new me. I didn’t change, I grew. I figured out what I wanted in my friends, in my family, and in any relationship I’d go into. My life is unique and the experiences I have in my personal and business life are unique for someone my age. I’ve become an incredibly strong business woman because I’ve dealt with everything someone at 45 deals with, and I’m 22.

There is a key to a strong long distance relationship. My situation was obviously different than most people’s because dating me is not easy. The travel, the events, the exhaustion, the frustration…I loved him most because he was there for me on the days when I didn’t think anyone could get me out of what I was dealing with. And vice versa, but my downs were always way worse. I loved feeling normal and young and fun when I was with him too! My responsibility when I’d leave Connecticut was astronomical and took away from the fun we would have because I had too much to do after our “vacation”.

The key is access. Communication is a big part blah blah, but what makes long distance feasible is the access one part of the relationship has to have to the other. I’m lucky that I get to travel the world and find myself in a new city every week most of the time, and for a long time it was very easy for me to take a train or a plan to Connecticut. If my heart is in something, I’ll do anything to make it work. I made myself very accessible.

Looking back, if I were to ever be in a long distance relationship again it HAS to be 50/50. The relationship became 85/15 towards the end and that’s when we agreed to mutually dissolve what we had gotten back into. The person who is traveling the most shouldn’t be paying for all the airline tickets. If the other person in the relationship doesn’t have the flexibility, you should totally help pay for the plane tickets because they add up, and fast. 50/50.

I never envisioned myself dating an entrepreneur but for me it would make a lot more sense because of schedules. Dating someone across the country who also worked a 9-5 job was impossible. I take weekends off, he works weekends. I have an anxiety attack if I want to take a Wednesday off because he has a Wednesday off and then I’m a bitch all day and it’s not his fault. It’s not my fault either. My career comes first. 

I never wanted him to move to LA, but we both knew that eventually someone was going to have to make a decision and that person wasn’t going to be me. I’d never move back to Connecticut. There’s nothing that ties me there besides my parents. Why should he feel forced to move to a city he hates on the contrary?

The minute I found myself at home in Connecticut, completely alone without that group of friends, waiting for my boyfriend to leave work, I knew I had lost myself in the process of trying to make a relationship work that didn’t exist anymore.

Be in a long distance relationship and use the distance to grow closer. Meet halfway on weekends. The minute you lose yourself in the relationship, communicate. Don’t ignore the elephant in the room: communicate. OVER communicate. If you still find no resolution, what’s holding you to being in something you’re going to fully lose yourself in?