Email Vs. Direct Message: What’s Better In Business?

Do you email, or do you DM?

During a Clubhouse discussion a few weeks ago, the conversation about rejection shifted towards age, and ageism. I’m not sure if ageism is an actual term you can find in the dictionary, but the definition of this word is being judged by your age. What ended up transpiring during our conversation was whether sending emails is appropriate, or whether sending a DM is.

I’m very pro-email, because I feel way older than I am, but I’m not mad about it. A few young adults in the chat battled with me about DM, because they thought that DM was the way of the future. Why spend time trying to find someone’s direct email or When I started blogging, social media wasn’t around. I had to look high and low to find emails of people I wanted to contact. I get it, being in business is EXHAUSTING for everyone. Deciding what to put in the email is one thing, why do you have to spend your time searching for an email too?

Here’s how I view direct messaging: less professional, and less formal. I get so many messages from you sending me your ideas or asking me to help you with your projects, but then I get asked for my email – and my email is in my bio. All I’m saying is that’s totally find and all, but if you’re sending a direct message to a MAJOR CEO who ends up replying to you and you ask them what their email is (while it’s sitting in their bio for you…) not everyone is going to be as relaxed as I am.

View direct message as an informal follow-up to an email, or a way to post something on your Instagram story and tag the person you want to view it, but don’t view direct message as your end all, be all. What intrigues you more in business: direct messaging or email?

Simple French Braids with göt2b®

This shop has been compensated by Schwarzkopf. #sponsored
#trygot2bspraywax #got2battarget #got2bpartner
Find out more here!

K, let’s talk braids. I’ve always wanted to learn how to brain my own hair, but for some reason I’ve never been able to do so. Braiding my hair is so complicated and confusing! I’m simple with my hair routine: shampoo, condition, and always put on a blow dry cream before starting a blow dry. If you’re doing a more intricate hairstyle, a gel can be your best friend. Schwarzkopf has developed some of my favorite products for making my hair a little more glam. The göt2b® Glued® Spray Wax JUST hit the shelves, and is my new BFF.   The got2b® Glued® Spray Wax provides two looks with one product. So, whether you want flexible texture or structured hold, this product has you covered! Best of all, this lightweight formula does not leave your hair feeling sticky or crunchy.

I love the göt2b® Ultra glued® Invincible Styling Gel​ to add to my hair routine. I finish my blowout with putting their Spray Wax on my hair, and it never feels greasy or makes my hair tough. If anything, it’s the opposite. Can I  just use this 2 in 1 product, please!?

I found all the got2b products at Target!

The before and after here is pretty extreme, because the göt2b® Spray Wax take your hair from 0-100 with such a small amount of product. You’ll notice my hair is just straight and boring before I started to do the two tiny braids at the top, while continuing to make my hair flexible enough to work with. This product enables you to seriously hold your hair in place before your next shampoo!

What hairstyle should I try next!? Comment down below.

 

FAKE FAMOUS BULLSHIT

When 3 or more people ask me if I’ve watched a documentary, I know I have to watch whatever they’re referring to. This month’s suggestion was Fake Famous on HBO (that required me reaching out to way too many people to ask if I could hack their HBO accounts…for research). I felt slightly disgusted watching a documentary called Fake Famous, primarily because I knew exactly what the documentary would be about (doesn’t everyone want to be an influencer?)

I knew watching would be worth my Sunday afternoon.

I’ve always had a unique view on influencers because the term has ruined the entertainment industry. I started blogging back in 2011, started going on TV when I was 16, and landed a show on Disney when I was 18. From 2011-2016, no one knew what an influencer was. Bloggers were popular, because blogs had substance. Writing, even Tumblring or Tweeting had passion behind it. There were always hot girls showing their asses off on some social media platform, but no one was getting paid for it in 2016. Between 2018-2021, I watched the industry shift. Actors who spent years in acting classes, sleeping on floors in New York and LA, staying up all night bartending and then all day memorizing lines, became 16/17-year-olds getting “famous” for exactly the opposite – shaking their asses, throwing slime at the wall or jumping in Walmart ball pits. Walk into a casting in 2020 and don’t have 10,000 IG followers? Who cares if you went to Pepperdine and studied acting, either get fake famous or GTFO!

After I started my blog, the word famous became really relevant to me. I was thrown into the world of entertainment and celebrities by the experiences I enabled myself to have. From fashion shows at Lincoln Center to working for Disney and being in and around the scene everyday, I was constantly deciding what famous meant. Famous in 2014 isn’t famous in 2021. The question is, what does famous mean to you?

My answer to people who ask me what I think of influencers is simple and direct: having millions of followers doesn’t make you famous, everyone has influence – that doesn’t make you famous, either, and true fame will be even bigger than what a number on a social media site shows. Ask someone whose growing up right now, and they’ll think the polar opposite to me. This documentary shined a light, finally, on how fake and stupid this industry has become. I want all of you to strive for more than just Instagramming. You all have brains and beauty: use them.

Success and fame never comes easily. Just because we’re growing up in a world of people who are hungry for fame and think they can achieve self-worth from a following on a social media page, doesn’t mean you need to fall for that bullshit.

Work your ass off, aspire to be people like Oprah or Sara Blakely who didn’t get successful until later on in life, and stop comparing yourself to everyone you see online. You’re on your own path.

P.S. If I wasn’t so frugal and actually bought my own HBO account I’d let you all have the login to watch it, but I still don’t have my account.

I give you permission to text everyone of your ex’s to get their login.

CONNECTICUT MAGAZINE 40 UNDER 40!

Wowwww, Connecticut Magazine just named me as #3 on their 40 under 40 list! I celebrated on Monday by taking Alexis out to dinner at one of my favorite places in my hood, Cara Hotel. It’s the cutest little hideaway that’s super COVID safe, and felt like the best spot to celebrate. Growing up in Connecticut is certainly such a huge part of my story: growing up in a small town inspired me to be even more fearless and get out of my comfort zone by moving away to cities where I knew no one. That’s how you find yourself!

Thank you, CT!

Alexa Curtis • 23 • Mansfield

Entrepreneur and social media influencer

Back in middle school, Curtis started a fashion blog. By high school, however, as she was dealing with bullying, insecurities and body-image issues, she switched her writing focus to lifestyle. Today, she is CEO of Life Unfiltered with Alexa, a lifestyle platform aimed at young adults on social media with a focus on mental health. She also has a podcast, This is Life Unfiltered, and formerly hosted a Radio Disney show, Fearless Everyday. “For me, living life unfiltered comes down to doing absolutely anything that gets you out of your comfort zone, whether that means taking a leap and starting a company or even maybe going to college if you’ve never considered going before,” she says. “It can also be as simple as trying a new restaurant or meeting a new person and that’s how I really classify being fearless.” Fearless for her in 2020 came in the form of producing her second annual Be Fearless Summit for college students, which was to take place live in April. Curtis ended up running it virtually in October, and the event drew a strong audience. She hopes to run two more virtual conferences this year with an eye toward returning to in-person events as soon as safely possible. lifeunfilteredwithalexa.com • Instagram: @alexa_curtis

I’m Constantly Evolving And You Should Be Too

New day, new episode!

Super excited about this episode in particular, because I’m really taking you back to the beginning. I hosted a talk on Clubhouse yesterday that had a very strong response, and I look forward to hosting the same topic of discussion every Sunday on Clubhouse. Rejection and resilience are huge themes in my life. They also play a massive role in any founders journey, because no one gets a yes once and their story ends there. It’s the opposite: the more rejection you face, the stronger you’ll become.

In this episode, I go into detail about how I went from having a hobby of blogging to building that tiny site into this lifestyle platform! There’s so much good advice about how to pitch, how to secure your own brand deals or dream job, and how I kept bouncing back every time someone told me no.

 

This Tech Startup Is Changing The Landscape

Due to the current health risks, it has become much harder to shop for clothing. Sure, we can take measurements at home and order something off ModCloth or Nordstrom, but it doesn’t have the same appeal as trying them on before we head to the counter. Of course, we can also visit retailers and try on clothing with all the proper protocols, but is that something we want to risk our health for?

 Due to the current health risks, it has become much harder to shop for clothing. Sure, we can take measurements at home and order something off ModCloth or Nordstrom, but it doesn’t have the same appeal as trying them on before we head to the counter. …
And with reports saying that the virus may never go away, it’s difficult to feel optimistic about everything going back to the way it was. Luckily, it doesn’t need to. Thanks to new technology, designers were able to create software that will allow a customer to try clothes from the safety of their home.

StyleScan is a Los Angeles fashion startup that recently debuted last December. After two years of hard work, they were ready to unveil their proprietary visualization AI technology that’ll allow people to fit clothes without trying them on.

We call it ‘augmented apparel try-on’,” Larissa Posner said in an interview. “Displayed in 3D, the garments can be shown on a carousel of diverse models… we use our technology to convey human forms, different rotations, and a variety of poses. Our final image is indistinguishable from a traditional photograph.”

StyleScan’s technology runs on an AR interface. The technology forms 3D components in a footprint library, bypassing the need to transfer design data back and forth. The result is an easy layering of design spins onto real-world components, allowing people to swap the clothing using a photo.

Plus…

The fashions are rendered, not photographed,” Posner explained.


What did Posner mean by “rendered”? This means turning 3D models into 2D or flat images. In StyleScan’s case, the “models” are clothing. Before the clothes are uploaded into the system, specialists are tasked to make 3D model versions of them. This allows the clothing to adapt to the person’s photographed pose or angle.

For example, StyleScan can show a cute top’s front print on a front-facing person. But if the user wants to see how the clothing looks from the side, they only need to take a side view photo of themselves, and the technology will automatically overlay the top at the same angle. Think of it like looking at a mirror where your clothing changes magically. It’s very realistic-looking too!

[We’re] not just a group of techies,” said Galina Sobolev, StyleScan’s chief marketing officer. “We are seasoned fashion professionals, and with the aid of high-tech innovators we are bringing a lot to the game.” Posner, for instance, once worked as a fashion model in New York.

When is it rolling out?

StyleScan will be available mid-2021. The company is surprisingly tight-lipped about the details of its launch, including the clothing brands that they’re working with. However, we know it’s going to be an app since it’s easier to take photos with our phones.

If you’re looking for live updates, you can visit their website at stylescan.app.

I Got My IUD Removed, & Here’s What Happened To My Body/Skincare Routine

 

I’ve noticed my skin totally transform over the past few months. I got my IUD removed and my period has finally come back after not having it for close to 8 years. It’s certainly an annoying 7 days in my life every month, but not something I’m too disappointed about!

My skin always has been dry, so I’ve been in the process of trying new products out to figure out how to counteract the dryness of my skin while my hormones go back to normal. My skin routine is as follows:

Curology moisturizer & cleanser, cleanser in the morning and night and moisturizer in the morning. 

I did a partnership last year with Curology and didn’t anticipate liking the products as much as I do. Skincare isn’t my speciality, so I’m usually going back to products I used to buy with my mom when I was in high school since getting out of my comfort zone with skincare scares me! When I tested out the custom Curology items for a few weeks, my skin really started to improve. I was struggling with breakouts on my chin which is hormonal, but Curology cured the breakouts.

I have since stopped using the custom formula, and only use the moisturizer and cleanser now. Love them all, though!

EVENING ROUTINE: 

I use Glossier future dew and super bounce. My sister encouraged me to get these two products because my skin was getting so dry even when I was cleansing/ toning every night. For my night moisturizer, I use the Glossier priming moisturizer rich. It’s very thick and you don’t need to use that much, but it lasts overnight and I wake up refreshed when I use these three in the evening.

In order: Glossier super bounce, Glossier night moisturizer, and then future dew on top (it’s VERY greasy so use 1/2-1 full pump). 

For eye cream: Chantecaille stress repair eye cream is very light, and I like it. Retail is $198, so I buy mine on Poshmark.

That’s all! It seems like a lot of steps, but it’s seriously easy and simple. Glossier products are very affordable, so the main investment is in Curology and the eye cream.

If you’ve got dry skin like me, this routine will change your life!

MEET MY MOM

Serious celeb  on this episode today. Meet my mother, Audrey. How did she end up in America? Did I show signs of being different from a young age? Plus, what parents should know about kids who show signs they are different. Follow The New Unfiltered and Alexa Curtis at @thenewunfiltered and @alexa_curtis on social media.

The New Unfiltered · MEET MY MOM

The New Unfiltered: Final Episode, Season 1

Season 1 with Alix is wrapping up a few episodes earlier than anticipated so I can get back to what I do best: inspiring and interviewing experts from around the world. In this episode I go into detail of why I’m dissolving the podcast with a co-host, my decision to move to Austin, and how I plan to expand my company in this new city.

What you can expect on season 2 is different than past shows I’ve done. You can leave me a private voicemail every week about something you’re struggling with and I’ll tackle the answer with some experts during each episode. Season 2 will start airing in February!

 

My Trip To Vail With Antlers Resort

My therapist told me to take a few weeks off and after 4 months of not listening to her, I finally did. And oh I did: I ended up in Austin and Vail, and lived my life like the most fearless 23-year-old could! Skiing, snowmobiling, eating fried chicken sandwiches and more.

A few months ago, I reached out to a publicist who I’ve worked with in the past to see if she’d host me at my favorite resort in Lake Tahoe. Though she didn’t represent The Landing in Tahoe anymore, she referred me to another property in Vail called The Antlers. I said yes before even asking friends if anyone wanted to join me. After asking pretty much everyone I know, I got a few friends to join me in Vail for a 4-day skiing trip. If you’ve never skied before, it’s quite an adventure. I’m a self-taught skier, having only skied twice in my life and one of those times was on a black diamond course. Now, my last skiing adventure was enough to scare me enough to where I’d never ski again. Beginners do not belong on black diamond courses, they belong on bunny trails and quite frankly in the lodge having a hot cocoa. But how could I consider myself to be fearless if I wasn’t able to say I fell down skiing and got back up over and over?

I flew in to Vail earlier than my friends did, and rented a car from Denver. I drove about two hours from Denver to Vail and parked my car in the garage at the Antlers. I’m a huge hotel snob but usually shy away from Airbnb or condos when traveling because I don’t feel as boujee as I do when I’m at a hotel with room service. I was skeptical when I said yes to the partnership with Antlers because I didn’t know what to anticipate. Upon checking in and entering the room, I decided my theory around apartments was wrong. Antlers hooked us up with the most beautiful two-bedroom apartment in the heart of Vail. With a coffee machine, tons of blankets, a spacious bathroom and kitchen, this spot was worthy of me moving in to.

Our stay was relaxing and luxurious. I had tons of questions throughout my stay about where to eat, how to get reservations (Vail books out weeks in advance) and where to ski. Front desk staff answered faster than anyone at the Four Seasons concierge does, ready to pick us up down the road or get me a reservation at the nicest spot in town. Along with their concierge, they hook guests up the skis and snowboards for 10% off. You can get your gear delivered to Antlers or pick it up literally 2 feet away from the property.

Even though there’s no on-site restaurant, you can order soups or get a coffee or water in the lobby. Don’t fret, you’re in a perfect area for restaurants on every block: we didn’t have enough time in the four days to eat at every restaurant in the vicinity! Down the street we munched on fried chicken sandwiches at Bully Ranch, a very cool and country restaurant in another hotel.

On our second day, we ventured out to Nova Guides to snowmobile in a blizzard! In Vail, you can either stay inside all day and grill or ski, or venture out to other areas nearby. Avon and Gypsum are other upscale towns close to Vail, so I suggest you rent a car so you’re not stranded if you do decide to venture out.

Overall, Antlers was the only spot I’d stay in in Vail the next time I’m in town. I’m already looking forward to my next trip!