Meet Dr. Jill Grimes, Mentor Match mentor

This week, I wanted to introduce you in-depth to Mentor Match mentor Dr. Jill Grimes. Dr. Grimes appeared on my podcast The New Unfiltered to discuss her thoughts on the COVID vaccine (go get it!) but she’s not just a Doctor. Dr. Grimes has been practicing medicine and writing books for most of her life. Her most recent book, The Ultimate College Student Health Handbook, received a President’s Book Award in Florida. Dr. Grimes is here to give you some advice on heading back to school this season.

Insomnia

is a HUGE problem & often the first physical manifestation of stress.

Solutions: All these above plus consistent sleep/wake cycles.

 Dealing with test anxiety & fear of public speaking

1 in 5 college students (20%)  suffer from text anxiety & 64% have fear of public speaking

Solutions: CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), breathing exercises, aerobic exercise, decreasing caffeine, arriving early, medication, specific study skills

Alcohol: Address the risks & the culture of “blackout” drinking

Solutions include having an “exit strategy” (like a code word) if you feel pressured to drink or have had too much.

 Pot

Things you might not know about pot (THC content, 1 in 6 teens get addicted, what’s in it besides pot, how it can screw up job/internship opportunities)

And…

Get vaccinated! Flu, HPV, COVID.

Communicate with Confidence Webinar

THE FIRST MENTOR MATCH WORKSHOP is HERE! 

Over the next weeks, you’ll see new workshops being released with mentors from Mentor Match. I’m extra excited about these workshops because first off – we’re making them available to you for free with limited space. AKA, RSVP before the spots fill up.

In this workshop, I’m having Kim Barnes join me. She’ll be discussing ways to captivate your audience (whether that’s a future employer or class you’re presenting to) as well as give you personal feedback on how to perfect the way you speak and present IRL and virtually.

Read more about Kim here:

Kim Barnes has spent 30+ years on the air! Now, she  works with executives, entrepreneurs, speakers and small business owners who want to improve their on-camera presence for video, virtual presentations and media interviews, as well as their public speaking. Kim was an award-winning reporter and news anchor for 15 years. Since leaving news, she is also seen in corporate videos, commercials and does voiceover work. Kim also taught TV news reporting at The University of Texas. She works with her former sportscaster husband as Barnes Team Media. They have a son who graduated from Texas A&M and a daughter who’s a current UT student.

Overcome Your Public Speaking Fears

Each week on The New Unfiltered, I encourage you to call in and leave me a voicemail with what you’re struggling with. This week, a voicemail stood out to me I was excited to tackle.

Public speaking is something that so many people struggle with learning how to get comfortable with. After being a public speaker for some time now, I’ve learned my own tricks to getting comfortable getting in front of an audience. It’s not always easy, but the more you practice, the more comfortable you will feel (1 minute of practice per 1 hour of presentation) following each presentation.

Claire called in from Ohio to ask Danielle Walker, head of public speaking and communications at Concordia University, how to overcome being nervous for her job interview. Listen below!

Marriage Or Mortgage with Netflix’s Sarah Miller & Nichole Holmes

The real estate debate: buy a house or rent one?

How about get married or buy a house?

One of my favorite shows, Marriage or Mortgage, stars Nichole Holmes & Sarah Miller (Nashville based real estate agent & wedding planner) join me to discuss their first TV show, landing a deal with Netflix and how they helped couples in Nashville battle a major life decision: get married or buy a house?

The New Unfiltered airs every Monday at 5 AM EST. Call in your questions to 909-971-3291 and ask me anything you’re curious about. If I can’t answer, I’ll find an expert who will!


Why Top CEOs Have Mentors

Am I the only person that doesn’t love the word coach? When I think of a coach, I think of someone whose selling their services of how to improve your life and pay them to teach you how to do that!

The only downside of coaching, and life coaches, is there’s so many out there. Many of them aren’t “authentic” or honest in their endeavors, but are just trying to take your money. Sorry to say it so bluntly, but it’s true. Making sure my mentors weren’t branded as coaches in Mentor Match has been important to me because of that – I don’t want you to think you’re paying for a 30-minute session with a life coach that’s going to simply solicit you to keep booking calls with them to get coached. That’s not what Mentor Match is about – we’re doing just the opposite.

Over the years I’ve interviewed 100s of entrepreneurs who all have their own mentors and coaches. Getting to the top without any feedback or advice from someone isn’t easy. The more people you can surround yourself with in different areas than you work in the better, because you’re never going to stop learning if you surround yourself with different people everyday.

I have a business mentor/business coach Schell Gower, whose been instrumental in helping me build Mentor Match behind the scenes. I read a book called Story Book where I learnt about Schell, and felt inspired to reach out to her. During our call yesterday, Schell told me how she has 5 business coaches of her own! I was surprised, and said Schell, why do you have a coach when you’re a coach?

She said plain and simple – no one has all the answers, not even her!

Regardless of where you’re seeking advice and inspiration from, Mentor Match or not, having someone help guide you towards success is an investment in your future. Want to start a podcast but not willing to invest in the equipment? No one is going to stand by your dreams when you aren’t willing to figure out how to bring them to life.

Do you go home from work everyday and talk to your partner about how much you hate your job? Your partner is going to listen to your frustration and complaints, but they may not tell you the one sentence you need to hear that your mentor will tell you…stop complaining and start making different decisions and new choices.

I’ve had mentors throughout my career and interviews who have told me similar things. Danielle Robay, whose a Mentor Match mentor, once told me to stop caring about all of the criticism I receive about how I don’t have millions of followers yet and channel that into continuing to pursue my dreams. That’s one sentence I think about each time I’m rejected or extra frustrated.

Here’s what I’d ask you to ask yourself:

In 30 minutes you may find your purpose, solve your own life equation towards finding happiness, or land your dream job. What’s holding you back?

Build The Perfect Resume with Jonathan Xavier

Join Jonathan Xavier, founder of Wonsulting, a company geared towards helping individuals from non-traditional backgrounds land their dream jobs, and myself on Instagram Live tonight at 5 PM CST/ 6 PM EST to discuss landing your dream job and drafting the perfect resume! 

I’m still a big fan of a media kit vs. a resume, but why not have both? Search “media kit” on the homepage of Life Unfiltered for my tips on creating a media kit you can send to future employers instead of a resume.

Creating or re-doing your resume? We’ve rounded up our favorite tips to help your resume stand out:

1. Keep it brief: A long resume usually gets skimmed through and pushed to the side. You want to explain things efficiently but keep it short and sweet. If something doesn’t need to be expanded upon, leave it out.

2. Choose a readable font. Fancy resumes can be trendy, but make sure the font is legible. You can always showcase your creativity with the colors or layout, but keeping the font simple is best.

3. Use Keywords. Using keywords that are related to the job you are applying for is a great idea. This will make you stand out as a candidate! Although you may need to adjust them when applying to certain jobs, the minor tweaks will make a big difference.

4. Call attention to important achievements. Make sure to list any achievements that stand out on your resume. This could be winning an award, holding a position in a club or philanthropy event, or anything else that shows your involvement.

5. Use a professional email address. If you’ve already graduated college, you should set up a Gmail account with your first and last name. Hiring managers don’t want to see your AIM handle from when you were younger. Keep it clean and professional!

Ask your questions to Jonathan and I on Instagram between now and 5 PM and we’ll answer as many as possible!

What Mentor Do You Need? Choosing The Right Mentor

A hurdle that many young adults struggle with is finding the right mentor and approaching them properly. Do you cold pitch your mentor via email? Approach them in public and ask for their contact info? Do you jump straight to the point and ask them if they’ll be your mentor?

Mentorship is a joint venture between both parties. Looking at mentorship as a way to land a job isn’t ideal because you want all of your mentors (yes, you can have multiple!) to be teaching you, introducing you to people including potential employers but most importantly, using their experiences to guide you towards making the best decisions for your future. Your mentor is there to help guide you towards finding your dream job, landing your dream internship or transferring career paths. During the Mentor Match process, it was really important to me to make sure that the mentors I invited into the program were at the top of their fields. I spoke to some of them via Instagram live over the past weeks (watch the interviews here) to introduce you to their work and experience.

How do you know which mentor to choose if you don’t know what you want to pursue for a career?

Three questions to ask yourself before choosing a mentor: 

Are you looking to switch career paths or pursue the same career while pursuing a side-hustle?

Are you entering college but feeling like you don’t know you want to follow the degree you’ve chosen?

Are you looking for a mentor whose a bit softer in their response and more like a friend, or are you looking for a mentor whose going to sit you down and tell you what’s up?

Before your first conversation, come up with 3-5 questions to ask your mentor. Mentor Match calls are between 30-40 minutes, and you want to walk away from each call feeling accomplished and headed in the right direction. Perhaps they’re more business-related questions (how did you afford college? what made you want to start your company) or more personal (how did you overcome any rejection? how did you deal with your family/friends not supporting your dreams?)

With categories like sports and entertainment (for those looking to enter industries like marketing, communication or PR) you may be a fit for someone whose graduated with a PR degree (Morgan Strauss, for example, who actually consulted on my consulting company for different clients in PR) studied PR but also knows how to get into content creation and social media. Danielle Robay is an on-air personality and host of a huge podcast with Dear Media called PRETTY SMART, where she tops to top leaders like Rebecca Minkoff and Michelle Grant. If you have aspirations of launching a podcast or being on TV one day, these candidates are the right choice for you.

In our finance category, Hillary Seiler is an NFL coach who teaches athletes about finance. Do I need to say more!? Hillary is so legit I wish I had her coaching me! Jennifer Dermer comes from a more traditional background, currently working as an advisor at Mass Mutual in San Diego. She’s there to walk you through the steps of investing, but also how to become a finance coach for others if that peaks your interest. Regardless of who you choose in the finance category, booking a call with a top mentor in the personal finance world ensures you’re finances are in check in and out of school.

A category I’m extra excited about is leader development. When I launched Mentor Match I didn’t want anyone to look at these mentors and brand them as coaches. Though we all can consider them to be “coaches” of some sort, these mentors are not listing their services online for you to go off of Mentor Match and book a call with them. Truly, they’re too successful to need to do that. Since I know them personally, they’ve donated their time to help all of you get to where they are in their careers and personal lives.

Katie DePaola is the founder of Inner Glow Circle, a membership community with 1000s of women asking Katie for advice on everything from personal branding, to launching a brand and even dating. George Haymaker launched the Halo Top for diabetics, after recovering from his own addiction struggles. George’s perseverance and resilience will encourage you to overcome rejection, be your most fearless self, and take any negative experience and turn it into a positive one.

Other categories in Mentor Match to look at:

Education

Biotech

Fashion & Style

and more!

UCONN BE FEARLESS SUMMIT 2022!

SUBMIT TO SPEAK HERE!

I’m bringing the Be Fearless Summit back home to my hometown! The entire Be Fearless Summit team, myself and UCONN are thrilled to announce the 2022 Be Fearless Summit will be coming to UCONN February 25th & 26th, 2022!

Submit to speak above, and get ready for us to bring you our first IRL summit since Drexel in 2019. This summit will be a bit different in comparison to other summits because it’s a students only summit, but anyone can submit to speak above.

We’re excited to match you with mentors and so much more in 2022!

Debunking Covid Vaccine Myths with Dr. Jill Grimes

 

My good friend and Mentor Match mentor Dr. Jill Grimes is here to discuss the COVID vaccine with me. Are you still on the fence about whether to get the vaccine? Dr. Grimes and are I both now double vaccinated and excited to be here to explain our experiences to you.

Listener note: this episode was filmed in March. There is new data and research out there. Please stay educated and get vaccinated!