I’ve been in this industry long enough to have seen it all. From celebrities making mistakes and putting something online that I can’t even fathom young people seeing, to moguls and CEOs being called out for harmful behavior in the workplace, to everything and more…let’s just say Alexa has an opinion on everything. But I’m aware of my platform, and I’m aware of the person I want to be seen as. That person isn’t the one to nastily reply to someone on Twitter or Instagram, and definitely isn’t the person to stir up drama with someone else in the industry. If I’m not that person offline, what would make me that person online? Entertainment is a small world where everyone knows everyone, and I don’t want to deal with BS. I’ve got enough going on in my life! I like to say it to everyone…rise above people, rise above.

I did want to give my input on the situation that occurred yesterday with actress Amanda Seyfried and blogger Arielle Charnas. Arielle runs a popular Instagram page and clothing company, and is someone I’ve never met but know many people who know her and have worked with her. What happened is that Arielle posted an image of herself after giving birth, and Amanda caught wind of the post and called Arielle out, stating that she was insensitive and narcissistic to not be aware of the platform she has by putting out that picture. I have seen the picture of Arielle, and I also took time to scroll through her social media platforms to see what other content she posts.

There’s a blurry line (ALWAYS) between social media and reality. You follow your favorite “influencers” and bloggers because there is a part of you that knows you may never live their glamorous life, but everyone wants to feel like they are close to yachts in Mykonos and $3,000 Goop leather handbags. That’s a true statement because I’ve done the research on it to back it up. Do you really care that much about Olivia Culpo’s shoes, as much as you are fascinated by her life?

When in reality, your Arielle’s and Gwyneth Paltrow’s of the world may be doing who knows what behind the camera to get their body or their wardrobe. They may be bulimic, anorexic, millionaires, dating a millionaire, depressed, angry…or, they may be happy as a clam, working their tush off to pay for their personal trainer who helped them get back to their body post-baby. You just don’t know. Because that’s social media. You will probably never meet Arielle or Amanda Seyfried IRL. There is no reason for you to unless you are a stalker and slightly obsessed. You may never meet me IRL!

The point of this post is to bring attention to the fact that the world and the internet world are so different. They are not even comparable. It is to each their own to post their (underweight in my opinion, healthy in others) pictures of their body. Because it’s that persons Instagram page, not yours. Would I do that? No, especially when I know what young people out their struggle with relating to their body. That post also made me feel insecure, but I don’t follow her and I never was following her. What you should realize from this incident is that some of the people you desperately admire and follow are not who they are IRL. By posting a picture that’s insensitive to the people who follow you, you show your true colors. And many “influencers” and bloggers do not have the right intentions, I’m sorry to tell you. The amount of people I know who claim on their Instagram that bread and sugar is bad, when you see them out at events gorging on every single dessert, glass of champagne and loaf of bread is disappointing. Why is authenticity so incredibly rare nowadays?

I take so much pride in being authentic. The reason why many of you follow me is because of that. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve said silly things, and I’ve reversed that by apologizing and saying I screwed up. I’m human. But I’d never offend someone by posting something that potentially could, because when you make a living off of a career in the entertinment industry, you need to be absolutely selfless.

So if you felt insecure by that post, unfollow her. If you didn’t, proceed on. Let her post what she wants to post even if it’s “rude” or “insensitive” but it’s up to you to determine how that post made you feel. And you should never call out a body and put it down. That’s just not cool.

Xo,

Alexa